When it's at home

The number of people discussing "Quiet on the Set" is impressive.  I once used to find hope, a decade or 2 ago, when I saw people expressing shock and outrage over similar discoveries, regarding sexual exploitation of those from earlier generations. Now, all I can see is blind denial, and ignorant hypocrisy, as hands are being wrung about past situations, all while the same abuses are playing out daily in front of everyone.  Some of the same people expressing disgust or outrage for what was happening back in the 90s and 2000s, have no problem interviewing or joking about or excusing or working with sexual predators in current time, who are just as dangerous for our youth this very moment as anyone at Nickelodeon was, 20 years ago.

I guess this is how sexual exploitation of our youth will continue to be handled.  It will be allowed and ignored today, then memorialized in sorrowful regret, years after the fact.  Maybe in a decade or 2, Marc Maron's current victims might finally receive some validation, and those marketing this 60 yr-old predator to children today, may finally be called out.  It's too bad all of those feeling so bad about the stolen lives of kids years ago, can't wake up and see what this shit actually looks like in real time, when it's at home.

A repost, after finishing the 5th episode of "Quiet on the Set."

 I have now watched the first 5 episodes of "Quiet on the Set." I hope people will start to realize that any adults sexualing children 18 or younger, are sexually exploiting children. A child does not understand when adults are doing this. Mr. Schneider tried to excuse sexualized scenes in his shows as being "okay" because the jokes were not understood by the kids, and only the adults watching those references knew what it meant. That is my point exactly. No child ever understands any sexualizing they are being put thru. I did not understand what child porn was, and I was used for years in the creation of it. I had no idea my principal was a pedophile, and he was sexually exploiting me. No child will understand any sexual abuse/assault/exploitation they may experience until many years later. But any adult who was watching the referenced "cum shots" and foot fetishizing and the multitude of other sexualized situations in Schneider's programs, was enjoying the fact that they could get off watching a child experience such sexualized situations. That is sexual misuse of children. Adult predators were being gratified by children in very blatantly sexualized situations. And according to Mr. Schneider's words, the reason his shows were okay is because it was adults who understood the cum shots, not the kids. Children do not understand what is happening to them as they are being sexualized. No child should be used to create sexually gratifying material for adults. Children should never be sexualized for adults.

In this very well-done program, "Quiet on the Set," some of those interviewed speak of needing to protect kids better, now. That is so true, but it won't happen until the adults who groom and target children now, are called out, and are no longer marketed to children. All those known to be preying on our youth, must be recognized, and their access to children must be stopped.

Marc Maron is a person who has no business being marketed to children. He has over 3 decades of publicly grooming underage girls. Little girls are now sending him drawings of Mr. Snake. These children don't know what he is doing. But he does. And any adult excusing this and behaving as a Maron apologist, is perpetuating the kind of sexulization of children that occurred in "Quiet on the Set." This man is not safe for children. 

Here is my repost:

-----TUESDAY, AUGUST 15, 2023

Obsession

Today's WTF Bonus episode is interesting. A few times throughout the episode, there are the mentions of emails people have sent, and how Marc and Brendan read and honor the emails that they feel do address important issues, especially for those who are paying listeners who receive WTF's bonus material. Brendan and Marc both invite people to email them with these issues. And Brendan once again mentions, "if you are paying for it" as a concept that might make such emails receive more attention. 

I have been paying 5 dollars a month for Bonus material since last year. Obviously I am still paying for it, as I just finished listening to this episode. I sent an email, "Well, hell," on August 30, at 10:01 pm. On Sep 3, 2022, 8:33 PM, I sent an email, "OMG." The saved IG Live reel I referenced in that email was removed, a removal I referenced in the OMG followup email, sent Sep 4, 2022, 10:07 AM. Yes, like all emails WTF receives, my emails were being read. My email content was never publicly responded to with any concern for the issue I was emailing about. For 8 months, I did exactly what Brendan and Marc said to do, in today's Bonus episode. I was paying for WTF+ each month, and I was sending heartfelt emails. The issue I am addressing, to this day, is an issue that involves the lives of afab girls with a specific mental illness brought on by a specific form of child abuse, a group whose members cut themselves and self-harm in many other ways, and suffer from the longing to be gone from a world where older adults they try to trust keep re-exploitating them for sexual gratification, later abandoning them and adding to their mental illness symptoms, worsened by the older adult who re-exploited them. I consider the pain and suicide of such young people to be as important as every other group who experiences such pain and suicidal ideation because of the mistreatment they experience in systemic ways in our society 

Today's WTF episode, which I cannot legally share in this email, will have to be paid for, in order for others to hear it. It is an episode explaining problematic WTF Podcast moments over the years. It makes a point of explaining how some things from the past were wrong, and because of cultural changes, are no longer happening. Marc Maron's grooming and re-exploitation of young afab survivors of child sexualization who have a mental illness created by that abuse, is ongoing. Is happening to this day. It is not some innocently overlooked past problematic issue he no longer takes part in.

When I realized, last August, that Marc Maron was choosing to sexually exploit young victims of CSA, it was literally the last straw for me. I decided to speak up. I could have spoken about any of the thousands of older adult predators who are doing this. It was Maron's behavior that was my last straw. I did exactly as he and Brendan have always encouraged listeners to do. I emailed WTF. For 8 months, I brought this subject matter to the attention of Mr. Maron, in the exact manner Maron and his producer tell listeners to do. I am a paying listener. This issue involves some of the worst consequences for those suffering some of the most damaging child abuses that exist. Afab survivors of CSA who have BPD kill themselves every day, because they keep being re-exploited, and those predators who con them and later abandon them are viewed by others as decent people, while these girls are blamed for trusting these older adults who harm them. I cannot see how these young damaged humans' lives are less important than others who are dying because of the mistreatment they experience in society. 

I finally found the strength to speak up for this group I belong to. I wish, when I was 17, and spoke up about the SDA church-school principal who was preying on this same group, that I could have had wisdom and strength to speak about that predator the way I am speaking out now. That's not how this works. The reason young damaged members of my group are revictimized, is because they believe they are bad humans who cause older predators to damage them. That belief, and the way society perpetuates the victim-blaming of this group, makes it so there is no way for this group to escape their plight. They intrinsically need older adults who they can trust, because older adult helpers are the only way these damaged young humans will ever escape their hell. Predators act like they care. They act like they are the very help these damaged girls need. Men like Maron are allowed to prey on these damaged girls. These girls, if they don't kill themselves, may one day realize how society fed them to known predators. They may one day realize, when they are around 50 or so, how their lives, their anguish, was not important to anyone. It hurts in a way I can't even properly convey, to realize my life, as a child, mattered to no one, because sexualized little girls are seen as "less-than," are viewed as damaged "others" whom it is perfectly okay to sexually exploit. There is no way to escape this. I had to speak up.

In speaking out, it was Maron I chose to focus on, as an example of an actively-abusing predator choosing to harm the young afab members of my group. If I had chosen anyone who is currently an active predator, I would be gathering information, pointing out the abuses, giving the very examples of behavior required by society, when anyone speaks up about those who are choosing to harm vulnerable members of an "othered" group. The person who compiled that video of Joe Rogan using that awful racial slur, had a huge impact on others, because everyone finally had to see what was really going on. That person(s) who made that video, had to comb thru years of Rogan material. That person would have had to do this, regardless of who the slur-user was. That person was not obsessed with Rogan. That person was tired of everyone ignoring and excusing and explaining away cruel behavior. That person was speaking the truth.  

I am not obsessed with Marc Maron. I am doing my best to correctly speak out about the horrible, life-endangering behavior that is allowed to happen to girls from my group, girls with serious mental health issues caused by severe childhood sexualization. The requirements for speaking out make me have to gather information and do my best to present it. To try and diminish what I am required to do, by calling it anything other than gathering information, is another form of blame-shifting. If you must call what I am doing an "obsession," I will only own that word when it is used to describe the actual abuse I am trying to make others aware of. I sincerely want young mentally damaged victims of childhood sexual abuse to stop being sexually re-exploited by much older predators who are publicly choosing to prey on these victims with no repercussions. That is the only obsession I will own. Maron was the straw. That's the thread I have chosen to untangle. -----

Recap reminder

 A quote from my previous post entitled "What Gets Stolen."  

---When I was 17, I found out another another victim of the principal had tried to kill herself. I realized that sweet girl could have died. Two other victims had come to the attention of school staff. People in the church were starting to talk. I was horrified to think of any of those girls being dead.  

The principal packed up his wife and kids, and moved to another area quite abruptly. He became the principal of the adventist academy there. I knew he was going to be fucking kids there. I realized I could not live with myself if I didn't try to keep any other girls from ending up like the one I knew. I called the president of the sda conference where I lived. 

When his secretary told him I was calling about a school in his conference, he took my call right away. He started asking me questions, with that tone of voice I know and understand much better now than I did in 1983. He said he could not protect other girls unless I was honest. He was the first, and last, human I ever spoke to in detail about things that happened between me and any abuser. We talked for a long ass time. I started to realize what his breathing and tone meant; mother fucker was jerkin it. I stopped talking. His voice got professional again, and he said that because the principal had moved to another conference, there was nothing he could do. 

I called the sda church where the principal had moved. I ended up speaking to the youth minister. I gave him a brief synopsis. Here is what he said: "If you try to call anyone down here saying those kinds of lies again, we will sue you for slander, and have you arrested for harassment."---

I was coerced into silence by a common tactic used to keep victims silent. I was going to be reframed as someone who was harassing and slandering an active sexual predator. I did let that silence me, many years ago. Not anymore.

I am calling out Marc Maron for his predatory behavior. His behavior is a danger to the children he is marketed to. He is a danger to sexualized afab children. He is a danger to young survivors in recovery. Calling out his behavior is not harassment.