Coffee and DM's

 I woke this morning to a dm from a Maron fan.  They wanted to make sure I knew that Mr. Snake would once again be making his way into theaters later this year.  Three things stood out for me, as I read their words over coffee. 

First, was this person under the impression that I believed Maron would no longer be voicing that character his child fans send him drawings of?  He is currently touring this country, where children are no longer restricted from most of his audiences.  This man has unencumbered access to groom any child he wants, and there are even parents who are excited to bring their children to see this man.  A majority of his most recent acting entries listed on IMDB are specifically created for children.  Want to shock me?  Send me a dm if children ever start being protected from having this predator marketed to them.

Second, I would hazard a guess that this dm writer has taken part in berating the Catholic church for their practice of hiding and protecting their sexually predatory priests.  But perhaps I am wrong.  Maybe this person is just as gleeful when these predatory priests are allowed continuing access to groom children.

Third.  My living abusers are all still free and have access to children, with only one exception. The one person I witnessed rape another child when I was 5, did do a handful of year's prison time in the early 2000s for sexually abusing children in the late 90s. 

I already know these sexual predators are not being stopped.  It's a lesson I have watched in action for 58 years.  If sexual predators were being stopped, instead of being given access to children through their lines of work, my blog wouldn't exist.

I write this blog, since last April 26, because this man is a present danger to young sexualized afab children, to child survivors of CSA, to young survivors who have been diagnosed with BPD and suffer from SH and SI, survivors who suffer from addiction and are often in recovery.  I write this blog for the parents who have thanked me for gathering this information and making it easier to find, because they had no idea who was behind the voice of a character their children liked.  I write this blog for the past victims, who are thankful I am saying what they can't. When this 60 yr-old man is no longer endangering children, when he is no longer free to draw in and coerce the children he views as potential targets, my posts about him will stop:

Children

Do you know where your child is?

This post isn't something I wanted to do.  I have done my best to protect the innocent by marking out names and profile pics, but all of this is public information, easy to access, right there on the apps we all use everyday.  Any one of you concerned adults could find this stuff in posts you may pass over, or browse, or read, or, god forbid, even laugh at, every day.  Those of you with kids may be actively in denial about what your children are seeing, or going thru online.  At least there was some pretense, when I was going thru my own childhood hell, that child sexual exploitation was a crime.  It is so common now days, a popular influencer can make a post like this, and nobody seems concerned. 

I have chosen to try and include pics of all of the comments below this 21 yr-old influencer's post, just to show how common this online CSA actually is for so many of those responding.  There are quite a few pictures of that whole thread here in my blog post, so it is long.  I hope that concerned parents, at the very least, will still see it as worth reading, to grasp the scope of this ongoing abuse happening to children.  If anyone visits Reddit, the subreddits there dedicated to survivors of CSA, SA, mental health/illness, etc., are filled with comments from young people who are suffering from a multitude of very serious problems, because of what happened to them, often starting online when they were children.  Because those subreddits are full of predators who swoop in to offer "help" to these hurting survivors, I will not post direct, traceable quotes of the words written by these young survivors.  But there are literally thousands of these posts, and very few of these hurting young survivors are receiving any kind of constructive advice. Predators start to DM them, either to offer bs grooming "help" that eventually leads to re-exploitation, or to tell them they deserved what they got, or deserve to be hurt in worse ways.  Other young survivors sometimes parrot the words of their own exploiters, by telling these victims they need to find a "safe" person to reenact out their abuse with.  Sadly, there are so many posts where these same survivors later write about discovering they had been re-exploited by yet another predator, when they followed this advice.  There is a reason DV survivors are not encouraged to find a person to "reenact" their DV abuse with, in order to heal.  That is not how healing from any type of abuse works.  Most of these young CSA survivors, like myself at their ages, are heading into years of being re-exploited, believing it will help them heal.  What my sda school principal, and most of the therapists and ministers and other "helper" type people did to me in private, is now publicly being perpetrated on survivors.  My hellish existence has become normalized. This will only lead to more self-harming, more substance abuse, and more deaths.  And it is leading to more sexual predators being allowed to behave as my principal and Marc Maron have publicly behaved for decades.  

Everything mentioned in the attached photos is happening right now, to children as young as 7 or 8, even as I type this. Remember that old commercial that came on at 10 pm, to remind parents about their parental responsibilities?  Well, it's 2024.  Do you know whose dick your child is being exposed to?

These following pictures are a post and comments from young ones whose playground has been the internet.  Not one of these young survivors is at all at fault for any of this bullshit.  They are not to blame for not understanding what was allowed to happen to them.  These are survivors who were/are not being protected from the pervs on their playground.  The pedos in the panel vans have been given full access to our children.  That is the fault of the older, adult, mostly male sexual predators, and the parents who did/do not check on their children's internet safety.  Not one of the young survivors posting in the following pics is at fault.  

That does bring me to a question I don't know the answer to, yet.  At some point, these survivors do reach a place where they are making choices to allow their own children to be sexually exploited.  Some of them even start to encourage the exploitation of their own offspring.  While this isn't a new phenomenon (my stepmother, Pam, had been trafficked, and she did the same to me), it is much more prevalent now.  I have seen a couple of mothers who have said they are bringing their underage daughters to a Marc Maron show.  They actually seem to get pleasure from the idea of this 60 yr-old man being interested in their child.  Some of my father's mistresses offered their own children up to my father that same way.  At some point, adults who are actively involved in handing over children to be sexually exploited, become accomplices. The Pams and Ghislaines of the world are responsible for their choices, when they decide to hand over children to sexual predators.  The parents who do this are in territory I can't comprehend. The child who gets others to join in with their own exploitation, at a predator's bidding, does not understand what the hell is going on.  The parent who allows an old man to groom their alcohol-addicted teen, or is fine with an old man walking in on their teen daughter's changing room at a beauty pageant, those parents have entered that realm of culpability where the predators reside.  

These young survivors commenting in the pics below, will one day have to realize, like I finally was able to see in my 40's, that they were not protected by anyone.  And they will also have to realize that they were ascribed the agency/blame for all of it.  Children who are sexualized are expected to know better and protect themselves.  They are expected to know what these predatory adults are really doing.  And then they are blamed for displaying the symptoms from having been sexually exploited.  No blame is placed on the much older, adult predators, who are knowingly exploiting children, who are getting off on children.  Sadly, these young survivors right now believe this was all "normal," this was "just the way it is."  They have no clue what is being allowed to happen to them.  

You want to know why our teen girls are killing themselves at higher rates than ever?  This is the reason.   They are sexualized from birth, and sexually exploited by adults, mostly men, the minute they can navigate the technology we hand to them.  And these girls are told it is all their own powerful, feminist choice to be sexually exploited like this.  That is how blame is being reframed, in order to place it on the shoulders of children.  We don't, as a society, actively encourage younger and younger drug use, or younger and younger acceptance of domestic violence, or younger children driving drunk.  But children have been exposed to old dicks ejaculating online for the past couple of decades, and those predator assholes don't have to buy candy or hide behind econolines anymore, to do this shit.  They just do it.  Anytime they want.  And when these young survivors post publicly about experiencing CSA, and no one reacts by calling out predators or trying to stop them, these survivors assume what happened to them didn't matter.  They assume it was just what they were made for. 

The following are pics of this young influencer's recent post, and the comments below that post.  I hope somewhere, at least some parents out there are paying attention. 

 

 

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