Equivalent

 I have seen my left-leaning friends, as well as some of Marc Maron's fans, posting about the arrest of the politician in the article I will link below.  This politician's illegal behavior is the same behavior Marc Maron has been publicly bragging about and encouraging for three and a half decades.

When I speak of the predators who destroy the lives of people like me, I am speaking about all of those predators, not just those who belong to a certain political party.

All of those adults who believe it is okay to prey on teens are predators:  

https://www.bloomingtonmn.gov/pd/news/grand-rapids-man-arrested-solicitation-minor-prostitution-2025-03-18

DARVO

 DARVO is an acronym for behavior used by those who wish to get away with exploiting others. (See pic and link below. ) My father, my old sda school principal, Marc Maron, and many others, use this technique to get away with sexually exploiting the vulnerable.

We are watching DARVO in action, on a geopolitical scale.  

What will happen next?  Who the hell knows.  People allow the exploitation of others by those adept at DARVO techniques.  When we allow predators to get away with exploiting others, it sends a message.  Predators will do what they can get away with, unless others decide to stand up and call out their behavior. 

Stand up.  Call out unacceptable behavior, wherever it is happening. 

 

DARVO

Boys and Men

I watched the current interview with Richard Reeves on the Daily Show, and very much look forward to reading his book, "Of Boys and Men," in the coming weeks.  

As a mother of sons, and a grandmother of 2 young grandsons, I have been consciously aware of and concerned about the issues that boys in our society face, ever since my first child was born.  My blog posts since April of '23 have been specific, and I actively avoid other issues in most of my current posts, but something Richard Reeves said during his interview converged with the topic of my current blogs.  He said, "On average, boys just grow up a little later, they mature a little bit later."  To me, I see it more as girls are sexualized earlier, and this contributes to the perception of precocious maturity they are so often ascribed.  

Puberty onset varies scientifically for a wide variety of reasons, but that all is still happening among children at relatively the same time.  It is happening among peers.  The average age for girls is 8 to 13, and 9 to 14 for boys, according to the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development.  

My stepmother told me I was "so mature."  The sda principal often spoke about how girls were "so much more mature than boys."  (He once told me I was mature like Mary, from the bible.  How god knew teen girls were "mature.")  My church saw me as someone so "mature" at 13, they blamed me for the behavior of their 33 yr-old male school administrator.  This subtle societal belief that girls "mature" faster than boys was very harmful for me.  The way society has used an insignificant average age difference for the onset of puberty to ascribe agency and maturity to girls has been harmful for a lot of children, both girls and boys.  (I write more about the way predators misuse these words to excuse their exploitation of children in this post:  Trigger warning )

Girls may, on average, hit puberty about a year sooner than boys.  But if they were not sexualized and objectified from infancy onward, I think this would actually go a long way toward creating less behaviors that lead to the "girls are more mature" phrasing that has been co-opted by older men like my old sda school principal, or Marc Maron, to excuse their predatory behavior toward teen girls.  Girls are not more mature than boys.  Children are individual beings.  A male child who hears that boys are "not as mature," is being unintentionally saddled with an expectation that could be harmful to that child.  

I hope our society can learn to nurture children, without sexualizing or objectifying any of them, or unintentionally saddling them with gendered expectations that may harm them, or can be used by adults to harm them.

Marc Maron's audience

 A school board is receiving backlash from parents. These are parents of high school students who were not being protected from predators. Here is a video of a recent board meeting in St. Helens, OR:

https://youtu.be/rMhwlWtAMeo?feature=shared

These teenagers in St. Helens had predators teaching them, predators placed in positions of power over them, while attending school. These parents have every right to be angry. Children should be protected from predators at school.

A predator enters our US school districts every holiday season. I have young family members whose children have seen this video in their classrooms. Children have no idea how to spot predators. When adults are presented to children in schools, those adults are viewed as safe. No child understands what a 61 yr-old is thinking or doing. Who we allow to be seen as safe by our kids is our responsibility, not our our kids' responsibility. This is why those parents in St. Helens are angry. Predators were allowed access to their children, by a school board that has a lot to answer for.

If a student brings home a note for their parents to sign, so their child can see Marc Maron speak to a high school drama class in some US school district, those parents won't know Mr. Maron has spoken of his desire to have sex with teen girls for the past 35 years. Parents won't know how Marc Maron exposed his genitalia on set in Canada. That note they sign may include an NDA, which parents may not understand, either.  

Our children are not being protected from predators. Whether it's Warren Jeffs arranging child marriages, or Marc Maron getting close to and grooming girls and claiming it is them who are "enamored" with him, it is all the same predatory behavior.  

When adult men obsess for decades about having sex with teen girls, they should not be presented as safe to children. 

A Thank You to parents

"Quiet on Set," multiple episodes of SVU, Bones episode 3 of season 2, "Pretty Baby: Brooke Shields," are all examples of media bringing attention to the way adults sexualize and exploit children. At the same time such programs are being produced and aired, predators are still being marketed to children, and children are being placed in harm's way.

In this patriarchal society, adult men are allowed to get away with exploiting underage girls, and the girls are assigned the blame.  Soon, Storyline Online, a SAG AFTRA foundation program, will once again promote Marc Maron's Thanksgiving book-reading created specifically for children, a reading performed by a 61 yr-old man who has publicly spoken of his desire to have sex with teen girls for the last 35 years. Maron has recently spoken on his WTF podcast of his current interest in visiting high school drama programs, and voiced an interest in children's books. He has actively groomed teen girls from the stage, online, and in his personal life.  He claims these girls are the ones enamored with him, and has said he "cannot say no," when they respond to his grooming.  He has 13-stepped teen girls in AA, and knows AA can do nothing about it.  He admitted, in an Instagram Live, to illegally exposing his genitalia to a crew member on set, two years ago in Canada.

This self-proclaimed predator is growing his access to children, and no one is protecting the sexualized girls he will continue to groom and exploit. Every SVU episode, the Epstein saga, the atrocities at Nickelodeon, none of this media attention makes any real difference, in a society where predators like Maron are given free access to children, and actively marketed to them.  Sexualized children in our society are fed to this man, and predators just like him, with a wink and a smile.

I hope more parents continue to find my posts, and realize they do not want to let their children believe this man is safe. I will continue posting, because every parent or guardian or concerned adult I have reached, may have meant one less potential victim made available to this predator.  I thank each of the concerned adults who has read my words, and taken steps to protect a child they know.  It makes a real difference.  It matters.

Relentless

A few days ago, I was asked if I had finally given up on pointing out the predatory behavior displayed by Marc Maron these past three and a half decades.  I have not.  

People who get away with predatory behavior, will continue to do whatever they can get away with doing.  Mr. Maron is going to continue grooming and re-exploitating young survivors of CSA.  He is going to continue finding ways to expose his genitalia.  He is going to draw more children into his fanbase, as he continues to be marketed directly to them.  His book reading for children will be shown in a lot of schools in the next couple of weeks.  He is going to continue leaving mentally compromised young females in worse condition, when he is through using them.  

I will continue to point out Mr. Maron's behavior.  There are children suffering sexual abuses this moment, who this 61 yr-old man is going to groom and re-exploit.   No one spoke up for me, when this re-exploitation cycle dug its claws into me at the age of thirteen.  I will never stop speaking out.  

Life is full of discouraging times.  The only way to change anything, is to relentlessly keep being the person who will never give up.  

I will never give up.

Maron's current choices

Mr. Maron has not acknowledged the damage he has done to girls with serious mental health issues over the past 35 years.  He does not care about his past victims, victims who have been left in much worse condition when he is done with them.  There are many such victims, some who leave comments on his social media posts to this day.  These victims are suffering.  They are suffering from serious mental health diagnoses, serious addiction issues, serious issues with self-harming, and they often speak of ending their own lives.  Maron ignores their pain.  Yet he continues to groom more young damaged sexualized girls, who he will leave in that same condition later on.  He has never apologized for his oft admitted, and bragged about, obsession with fucking teen girls, and recently said he is compelled to have sex with them, even if he doesn't want to.  (His own words:  https://youtu.be/N57epLtJTm4?feature=shared ) After all of this predatory behavior, Maron is now starting to be an invited speaker in classrooms, and showing interest in the creation of books for children.  He is using his profession and celebrity status to place himself in positions where he can groom more young girls, where he can be held up as a safe person to bring into classrooms, where he can entice more correspondence with these girls and trauma-bond with more of them, and nobody is protecting these young people.

My old adventist principal, and a host of other sexual predators, are placed in positions of power over young people every day.  Society pays lip service to wanting to stop the atrocities these sexual predators commit, after the fact, but Maron is an example of what society actually allows, and even encourages, in real time. 

Marc Maron's reaction to my 8 months of reaching out to him, and my following 17 months of speaking out publicly about his predatory behavior, is to increase his public predatory behavior.  He does not believe it is wrong for old men to sexually exploit young, sexualized, mentally compromised girls.  He knows what he is doing, and he knows nobody will stop him.  He does not care about the pain and exploitation I, and others like me, experience. He does not care about the victims he has damaged, and left even more suicidal.  He is actively ignoring suicidal victims he has harmed, while actively placing himself into situations where he can continue to groom and exploit more of them.  Sexualized girls are seen as legitimate targets for old male predators, by Maron and by society.  Sexualized female young people are a group that can be exploited by a 61 yr-old men like Maron, and it is allowed and even encouraged. 

I will continue to speak out about Marc Maron's predatory behavior.  I do this, in spite of the egregious odds against society ever doing anything to protect damaged girls from this predator.  I do it for his past victims, and for his current victims, some of whom show up in Maron's social media posts, victims who are suffering even as Maron, purposely and with forethought, moves on to more victims.  

My life was stolen and destroyed by predators like Marc Maron.  No one cared.  My life didn't matter. My history, and the pain I wrote of, to try and explain to Mr. Maron how badly he is harming those like me, only made Maron want to double down on his predatory behavior. That is how little my words mattered to him.  He does not care about female victims of trafficking and sexual exploitation, unless he can groom and re-exploit such a victim.  Maron's victims deserve to be protected from this predator, a man who has exposed his genitalia on set, 13-stepped young addicts, and ignored a young suicidal victim in possession of a gun.  These victims matter.  They deserve to be protected.  

I hope someday, somewhere, sometime, society will finally listen, and stop sexual predators like Marc Maron.  He is actively using his job and status to groom more victims.  I will continue to actively speak out.

Prescient Hindsight

Sexualized children are not being helped in our society.  My life was directly affected by this failure, and sadly, this continues to be the truth for children currently being sexually exploited and trafficked.  This is why I decided to speak out publicly in this blog about a specific predator, starting on April 26, 2023.  Until people start to name and call out, in real time, the predators who target and re-exploit sexualized children, such children will continue to experience lives subject to continuing re-exploitation. That hindsight everyone suddenly says they have after viewing programs like "Quiet on Set," will never be transposed into timely protection and prevention, unless people finally decide to call out predatory behavior, as it is occurring. 

This is a summation of a few of Marc Maron's current words and behaviors that are red flags.  Paying attention in real time is the only way to protect current potential victims. 

Maron has recently spoken of his desire to attend high school plays, and has shown interest is children's books and growing his underage audience, and has just this month spoken of saying he thinks he would probably have been a teacher or a therapist, if he had not gone into comedy.  (This was on his recent "Ask Marc Anything" WTF+ episode, behind a paywall.)  A man who has spent 35 years purposely targeting mentally compromised teens who suffer from SI, SH, and substance abuse issues, in order to sexually exploit them, is not a person who has any business being around any youth, especially those in need of professional help.  A 60 yr-old man who has, on countless occasions for over 3 decades, publicly spoken of his desire to fuck teen girls, has no business being marketed to children.  A man who grooms underage girls, then claims they are "lunatics" who are "enamored" with him, and he is unable to say "no" to them, is displaying red flags.

Sadly, therapists/teachers/ministers/helpers who target sexualized teens are able to steal the lives of CSA/trafficking survivors like me, and get away with this regularly.  My life is an example of how those in the "helper" professions so often get away with re-exploiting people who need to be protected from such exploitation, not subjected to more of it.  Those in "helper" professions are often allowed to get away with sexually exploiting damaged young people.  Marc Maron has no compunction about saying he would want to be a therapist or teacher or social worker.  No wonder I was re-exploited over and over, and was then blamed for how I was harmed by the very people our society pays to help people with histories like mine.  Predators like Maron often choose those very professions where they will have access to such vulnerable youth.  Maron can spend 30 plus years obsessed with teen girls, and still feel comfortable saying he would have made a good teacher or therapist.  

Maron has made a substantial part of his living exploiting and blaming young victims, getting access to groom and blame such victims in his work, garnering laughs at the expense of these mentally compromised girls, joking about them and berating them from the stage, and this predatory behavior has been accepted.  He is marketed to children, and this is not viewed as problematic. Vulnerable youth are actively being groomed and exploited by this predator.  Once he is done with them, and his victims are left suicidal, he shows no remorse or concern.  He has not once shown any compassion for those like myself, who are damaged by predators like him.  His reaction the past 2 years to my words shows exactly how he regards sexualized and traumatized teen girls.  When/if any of his victims finally speak up, people will claim ignorance, or blame the victims, but there has been ample evidence for the last three and a half decades, and nothing is being done to protect young people from this predator.  Every new generation of youth Maron targets could be protected, but no one one is doing that for any of them.  

Maron is free to speak about his dick in front of kids. He can brag that he has enough "game" to have convinced a number of much younger girls to get abortions, yet also brag about never using condoms.  He will not get a vasectomy, yet he does not want children.  He has bragged about giving herpes to one of his exes.  This 60 yr-old man is targeting mentally compromised teens, and this is what he exposes them to.  This is all out there, in his IG Lives, his specials, his IFC TV show, his Intros and podcasts, his interviews and late night appearances.  

Maron wrote and will be directing and starring in an independent movie this fall. There is no requirement for Intimacy Coordinators in the US, and Maron has already shown his ability to get around the safety such Coordinators are supposed to bring to sets, when he exposed his genitalia on the set of Delores Roach in Canada. Whatever "dark subject matter" Maron's script is about, the darkness of what he is capable of getting away with on set is as destructive as anything done by every other known predator in the entertainment industry. Maron's victims are not being protected, and it isn't because his predatory behavior is hidden. It's just been blatantly ignored for 35 years.  

No one is protecting sexualized children from this known predator.  But I'm damn well gonna keep doing my best to speak out.  

 

"I'm curious about children's books."

"Like, I'm curious about children's books."  Marc Maron, on today's WTF episode, at 1:25:44.

This old sexual predator is worming his way into more interaction with/around/regarding children, and no one is protecting any children from him.  A man who has spent 35+ years publicly saying he wants to fuck teen girls, a man who exposed his genitals on the Delores Roach set, is focusing more on children. He is doing it because he can.  Because, just like my pedo adventist school principal, he knows nobody cares about sexualized children, and society will keep handing him the bodies of female children, and blame those children, while he keeps grooming more.

Society never spoke up for me.  My church, my family, no one ever spoke out for me.  Fuck that.  I will never be silent.  

Generational Trauma

 In Maron's podcast intro and dispatch today, he once again stated that part of why he has never wanted children, is because he did not want to continue the generational trauma and pain that did so much damage to him.

Maron's victims now include girls young enough to be his grandchildren.   Some of his victims have children.   Maron's exploitation of their mother's have most definitely not made those kid's lives better.  Maron may not have passed his generational trauma on to any known blood offspring, but his exploitation of those from younger generations has most definitely carried his pain into the future.   The latest children on deck to be harmed by this man are now from the generation young enough to be his great-grandchildren.  For each victim Maron exploits, and labels "enamored" "lunatics" when he is done with them, the outer world continues confirming Maron as a person to be looked up to, a celebrity who is safe enough to be marketed to children.  His victims have no choice but to blame themselves for Maron's predatory behavior. 

Maron's chosen behavior toward much younger damaged humans has been deleterious for each of them, and will continue doing damage for generations to come.