What grooming looks like

 I get a lot of questions about what grooming looks like, how to spot it, and what goes on when it is taking place.  In this repost of the YouTube video compilation at the end of this post, there is an example of grooming.  Through the first 11 minutes, Maron excuses his 30+ years of predatory behavior, shifts blame onto his mentally compromised victims, and at one point tries to say he has to have sex with these girls, even if he doesn't want to.  He makes it sound like these girls are the ones chasing him because they are enamored with him.  At 11:03, he speaks of a friend's daughter, a 15 yr-old girl.  This girl has no idea what kind of person her father's friend is.  She has no way to protect herself from this predator.  She sees Maron as a safe man, a man who is featured in a Thanksgiving book-reading for children, a man her father allows into her life.  Maron is bonding with her over something she loves, and giving her an expensive gift that is devised to catch her attention.  She has been set up by Maron.  If she has already been exposed to adults who are sexualizing children, she is a sitting duck, a perfect target.  Any response she may have toward Mr. Maron will be brought back down onto her in just a few years, by Maron, in the form of victim blaming, and she will not understand any of this until many years later.  The adults around her are telling her this predator is safe.  If she ends up like Maron's victim with the gun, Maron will say she chased him, he didn't want to have sex with her at all, and she will believe she did cause all of it, because her father, Storyline Online, animated movie production companies, and Maron's friends and fans, all behave as if this man is safe.  This girl will blame herself, if/when Maron uses her.  She has no way to know she has been cast into the middle of an insidious adult game, where she is destined to lose.

Every at-risk child being exposed to this man is being groomed by him, and everyone who allows children to see this man as safe is as culpable in these children's exploitation as any priest/bishop/parish that has shuffled predatory priests around to keep their parishioners in the dark.

Blame-shifting and grooming