Witness

Gloria Allred recently held a press conference with her client, Alicia Arden, who is a survivor of Jeffrey Epstein.  Here is the PBS News Hour clip:

https://youtu.be/UmJoLyxG2H4?feature=shared

In this clip, the pain Alicia Arden is currently experiencing can be seen.  It made my chest hurt, as I watched Alicia speak.  She cannot escape her personal trauma being devoured by the masses on every media platform.   And the only person doing time for crimes against Alicia and other survivors is about to be pardoned by the leader of our country.  

I have experienced the jarring sensation of seeing my old predator sda school principal show up in a friend's social media post, or discovering that old principal once belonged to a Facebook group for sexual abuse survivors, where he was offering comfort to teen girls in crisis, just as he had once done to me.  It does something internally, to see one's abuser freely grooming and abusing others, while they never had to answer for what they have already been doing for decades.  It hurts in ways that are hard to put into words.

I am currently reminded of the young crew member from the set of Delores Roach a few summers back.  Marc Maron indecently exposed his genitals to this young crew member.  (https://sighlentz.blogspot.com/2023/04/a-real-predator.html)  Maron is currently on a publicity tour for a number of things he is featured in, which means he pops up all over the place online.   That crew member will see him, and each time she does, she will relive the fact that this entertainer knew he could illegally commit a sex crime against her, and there was nothing she could do about it.  He continues on with his life, being marketed to children in some of his work, and she has to live with the knowledge that nobody will protect her, or anyone like her, from this man.  He is free to break the law, and she must live with it, while being forced to see him publicly speak on programs like Fresh Air and morning news shows or late night programing.  That is how predators in a patriarchy leave their victims feeling:  powerless.   Those who are exploited by celebrity predators, must experience the pain of seeing their perpetrators in media, which makes it that much worse.

My chest hurts when I think of the pain Alicia Arden, and all of Epstein/Maxwell's living survivors are currently experiencing.   And my chest hurts for those who have been exploited by Marc Maron, and are being reminded of him during his current publicity cycle.  

Pardon?

Since my first post in April of 2023 regarding the predatory behavior of Marc Maron, I have been in touch with a number of survivors of CSA, CP, and trafficking.   These past few weeks have been disheartening for all of us.  From the events in the Combs trial, to the recent meetings granted to a convicted sex trafficker, all of it is a brutal reminder of our place in society.  

When I first posted about Marc Maron, another comedian let me know that "if these girls want help, they know where to go."  This comedian knows what Maron has been up to for three and a half decades.   For godsake, she knows what young female comics have had to go thru when they used to open for a Maron show.  She simply doesn't care.

The lip service that gets paid to exploited victims is bullshit.   The perpetrators are rarely charged, much less convicted.  Some of them can brag about their behavior, and then be marketed to children.  

There are many survivors of Epstein and Maxwell who are willing to speak about what happened.   That takes a kind of bravery most people can't comprehend.  But who is being met with, and given "queen for a day" immunity?  Who is going to get a pardon?  Ghislaine fucking Maxwell.  

I appreciate this video from Suri Crowe on MTN, where voices that matter can be heard:

The voices that matter

Lock the Gaetz

 Here is a recent post attributed to Matt Gates:

This post only exists in screenshots, now, as the "original" was allegedly removed, but this sentiment is held by senators who defended Roy Moore, by attorneys who defended Jeffrey Epstein, and by Gaetz himself.  It is also a sentiment held by Marc Maron:

In a patriarchy, right or left is no different, when it comes to the sexualization and exploitation of female children.  Marc Maron made his own thoughts about the Epstein case clear in an Instagram Live:

Epstein

Virginia Giuffre is gone, after living a life directly affected by the behavior of predatory men. Her life was filled with pain and abandonment, grief and loss, blame and misunderstanding.   She had no one.  My heart hurts for her.

Children will soon be watching another movie that includes a snake voiced by Marc Maron.  They are having a sexual predator marketed to them.  No one is protecting kids, right or left.

Just a little PSA reminder

Lip service years later does nothing for children being groomed now.  Those who know what Marc Maron has done for decades, are culpable for every child he ends up grooming and re-exploiting.  Those who market this sexual predator to children are choosing to endanger children.  Anyone ignoring the predatory behavior of this comedian is directly involved in harming damaged young people, and endangering children.

Every person who is frustrated by the way so many people ignore the behavior of our current leader, please ask yourself if you aren't just as capable of ignoring harmful/illegal behavior, when it's on a smaller scale, and involves someone you choose to view as above the law.

"All men are pro choice. ..." - Marc Maron

Marc Maron recently shared a bit he has done regarding abortion.  In a number of his Instagram Lives, he says he refuses to use any form of protection, even after speaking about how he gave one of his exes herpes.  In the intro to his podcast from June 27, 2022, episode 1343, he claims any man with "game" has had to deal with convincing someone to get an abortion. And he continues to groom and fuck girls with mental and emotional issues who are of child-bearing age. A 61 yr-old man who does not want children does not have "game," he has a real problem with being a responsible, much older, adult. His obvious responsible choice would be to have a vasectomy, and stop targeting much younger girls suffering from serious emotional issues and addictions.

Here is his recent Instagram post regarding abortion, which he captions "All men are pro choice":

Instagram post

(If, for any reason, this reel is removed, it can be viewed on my YouTube account, which has no sound, but the captions are visible:  https://youtube.com/shorts/GjkkLEwvjUY?feature=share)

Here is the podcast intro where he refers to men who have "game," starting at 2:50:

WTF, episode 1343, June 27, 2022

Mr. Maron is a sexual predator who shares similar traits with other known predators who prey on teen girls, predators who purposely target the very girls suffering from serious issues that lead to lives of constant re-exploitation, where the abuse and societal blame lead to nothing but more devastation (rip Virginia Giuffre).  Mr. Maron has bragged onstage about wanting sex with teen girls since 1989. His words mirror a phone conversation donald trump had with Howard Stern about Lindsey Lohan when she was still a teen, in an example of this predatory behavior that destroys lives of girls like I was, survivors who suffer from a number of issues that predators purposely target.  Predators like Marc Maron should not be marketed to children, or placed in any positions of power.  (Here are trump's words, starting at 11:43: 

Meidas Touch, Trump's Terrible Secrets, starting at 11:43)

Two years ago today...

 Two years ago today I made this post regarding Marc Maron's predatory behavior:

A Real Predator

Equivalent

 I have seen my left-leaning friends, as well as some of Marc Maron's fans, posting about the arrest of the politician in the article I will link below.  This politician's illegal behavior is the same behavior Marc Maron has been publicly bragging about and encouraging for three and a half decades.

When I speak of the predators who destroy the lives of people like me, I am speaking about all of those predators, not just those who belong to a certain political party.

All of those adults who believe it is okay to prey on teens are predators:  

https://www.bloomingtonmn.gov/pd/news/grand-rapids-man-arrested-solicitation-minor-prostitution-2025-03-18

DARVO

 DARVO is an acronym for behavior used by those who wish to get away with exploiting others. (See pic and link below. ) My father, my old sda school principal, Marc Maron, and many others, use this technique to get away with sexually exploiting the vulnerable.

We are watching DARVO in action, on a geopolitical scale.  

What will happen next?  Who the hell knows.  People allow the exploitation of others by those adept at DARVO techniques.  When we allow predators to get away with exploiting others, it sends a message.  Predators will do what they can get away with, unless others decide to stand up and call out their behavior. 

Stand up.  Call out unacceptable behavior, wherever it is happening. 

 

DARVO

Boys and Men

I watched the current interview with Richard Reeves on the Daily Show, and very much look forward to reading his book, "Of Boys and Men," in the coming weeks.  

As a mother of sons, and a grandmother of 2 young grandsons, I have been consciously aware of and concerned about the issues that boys in our society face, ever since my first child was born.  My blog posts since April of '23 have been specific, and I actively avoid other issues in most of my current posts, but something Richard Reeves said during his interview converged with the topic of my current blogs.  He said, "On average, boys just grow up a little later, they mature a little bit later."  To me, I see it more as girls are sexualized earlier, and this contributes to the perception of precocious maturity they are so often ascribed.  

Puberty onset varies scientifically for a wide variety of reasons, but that all is still happening among children at relatively the same time.  It is happening among peers.  The average age for girls is 8 to 13, and 9 to 14 for boys, according to the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development.  

My stepmother told me I was "so mature."  The sda principal often spoke about how girls were "so much more mature than boys."  (He once told me I was mature like Mary, from the bible.  How god knew teen girls were "mature.")  My church saw me as someone so "mature" at 13, they blamed me for the behavior of their 33 yr-old male school administrator.  This subtle societal belief that girls "mature" faster than boys was very harmful for me.  The way society has used an insignificant average age difference for the onset of puberty to ascribe agency and maturity to girls has been harmful for a lot of children, both girls and boys.  (I write more about the way predators misuse these words to excuse their exploitation of children in this post:  Trigger warning )

Girls may, on average, hit puberty about a year sooner than boys.  But if they were not sexualized and objectified from infancy onward, I think this would actually go a long way toward creating less behaviors that lead to the "girls are more mature" phrasing that has been co-opted by older men like my old sda school principal, or Marc Maron, to excuse their predatory behavior toward teen girls.  Girls are not more mature than boys.  Children are individual beings.  A male child who hears that boys are "not as mature," is being unintentionally saddled with an expectation that could be harmful to that child.  

I hope our society can learn to nurture children, without sexualizing or objectifying any of them, or unintentionally saddling them with gendered expectations that may harm them, or can be used by adults to harm them.