Grown up

Marc Maron's words from today's WTF bonus episode, speaking on the immaturity of those in their 20's, how rewatching Dog Day Afternoon as a 59 yr-old was so different:

"You gotta watch things as a grown up."

"There's no way, when you're 20 or whatever...You just have to watch things as a grown up... Your emotional spectrum has expanded to a point that it's fully formed."

Those teen girls Maron grooms, those sexualized girls twenty or thirty or forty years younger than himself that he draws in and "bonds" with and sponsors, those damaged little girls he tells lies to for sexual gratification, are NOT fully grown self-possessed women.  They are not aware how many of them he is exploiting at the same time.   They are not aware of how much worse he will leave them.  They are not aware of any of this.  And he damn well knows it.

Rape is an integral part of conquering citizens in war.  A strategic weapon in every hostile takeover.  Always has been.  Sexual assault is a specific kind of crime that destroys a person's sense of self, in a way no other assault or crime can do.  It obliterates the victim's ability to safely interact with anyone around them.  It can break well-adjusted adults who have experienced a decent start in life.  When a child experiences sexual assault/exploitation, their fundamental sense of self is destroyed.  Child sexualization does not make a child into a mature person who "knows what is up."  It specifically has the opposite effect.  Predator males in a patriarchy know this, which is why old men perpetrate such re-exploitation of those very sexually abused girls.

The things that others could do to me, say about me, convince me were normal, when I was 13, or 23, or 33, were horrendously damaging to me.  I knew nothing else.  I never had a chance to learn or experience anything else.  I did not start developing any sort of agency at all, until I was in my 40's and a member of SLAA took the time to speak the truth for me.  That was how old I had to be, to finally start to fully form the idea that everything I had experienced in my daily interactions with the much older men who lied to me so they could re-exploit me, was NOT the way I should ever be treated.  

Childhood sexualization does NOT make a child more mature.  It does the opposite. 

The number of times Mr. Maron speaks of how immature and undeveloped he was in his 20's and 30's, is easily verifiable, by his own words.  Countless times he has spoken of this.  The truth about how unknowing and undeveloped and immature humans are who are much younger than he is now.  He speaks of this truth continuously.   Whenever he tries to place blame on the stunted little damaged girls he lies to and leaves even more damaged, with even worse symptoms of mental illnesses like BPD, his own fucking words about these age groups he grooms and fucks makes it clear he knows his words excusing his predatory behavior are full of shit.  He has NO business sponsoring or befriending any young female victims of CSA.  It is not normal or healthy for any of the little damaged girls he preys on to be interacting with him at all.  They are not fully formed grown ups.  What he does to them makes them worse off, leaves them less able to ever get better.  The fact that adults around him, even other members of AA, allow him to say and do these things to mentally damaged, emotionally malformed little girls, girls already starting life with horrible strikes against them, is complicitly allowing these vulnerable naive damaged girls to be further harmed.