Exposure

 I wrote a post here, on Aug. 2, 2023, which surprised me when it netted a few correct responses.  Today, a woman who saw Maron's recent Seattle show, unwittingly wrote her own correct response to that challenge.  That audience member's response is at the end of this post.  Here is a link to the post I wrote last August:  Challenge

Blue comedy is great.  Many adults enjoy it.  I enjoy it.  The first laugh I had, after 3 years of being unable to find humor in much of anything, was listening to Maron describe Mike Pence at the Second Coming, in "End Times Fun."  Brilliant.  Really hit my ex-adventist, time-of-trouble-resurrection-jesus-coming-back-in-the-clouds funny bone.  I will always remember that first real laugh I had expressed in years. 

I can enjoy adult comedy of all kinds.  But since I went down that Millennial Moment Maron rabbit hole, I discovered something important.   I can enjoy adult comedy, as long as the comedian delivering the comedy does not target mentally compromised girls with substance abuse issues for sexual exploitation, does not expose their genitals illegally,  and does not groom underage girls and let themselves be marketed to children.

Has society forgotten what child sexual abuse, and sexual assault, are?  The neighbor who talks about masturbation to youth next door, the old man who talks about his genitalia in front of kids at a park, the adults exposing their genitals to anyone, these are predatory behaviors.   

Marc Maron's current material is being framed by Maron as him "exposing" himself to his audience.  He makes it sound like he is being vulnerable in what he is currently doing from the stage.  But this exposure is not vulnerability.  He is the creepy old man parents once had arrested at the park.  Kids are now allowed in his audiences.  He is being paid to get away with behavior that once got old predators arrested.   He has turned child abuse into subject matter that he is using to bring focus to the one thing all flashers want people to be aware of:  their dicks.  

My last post, The Grooming Continues, is an example of the results Maron's current onstage grooming creates in young fans.  He has groomed and fucked young fans for 3 and 1/2 decades.  He has purposely targeted very young damaged survivors of CSA who exhibit serious symptoms that include suicidal ideation and self-harming.  He has 13-stepped young girls in recovery.  He has written about his compulsion for young girls in his IFC show, "Maron."  He has spoken quite openly about his predatory feelings for teen girls since his Conan late night appearances, from the stage, and in interviews:

He receives DM's from underage girls as they communicate with him on social media, and children draw his Mr. Snake animated character to send to him.  Maron exposed his genitalia to a young crewmember on set in Canada.  These behaviors, on a playground most anywhere, would land this man in jail.  

Here is a picture of Maron walking to his recent Seattle show.  This pic was posted the following day.  In the comments, one fan who had just seen that show expresses exactly what Maron's onstage words are meant to leave his "all ages" audience members thinking about:  his dick.

The Grooming Continues

Maron's current tour includes subject matter that addresses many of the things I tried bringing to his attention for 8 months, from the end of 2022 thru spring of 2023.  After I witnessed a second Maron victim experience an escalating crisis (the 2nd such crisis I witnessed during those previous 8 months), I went public here on my blog, regarding Maron's behavior.  During those previous 8 months, Mr. Maron guested on some podcasts, speaking about his penchant for the young, and blame-shifting his 35 years of grooming onto their shoulders.  Here is a 12 minute compilation of some of those words:  Maron's words from 2023.  

Since April 26, 2023, when I went public about Mr. Maron's predatory behavior here in my blog, Mr. Maron has spent a number of his WTF intros and Instagram Lives speaking about a desire to have children attend more of his adult shows, as well as admitting to actively grooming a 15 yr-old by getting close to her and giving her an expensive gift.  As his latest tour started, his subject matter has included him speaking about the very things I tried to interact with him about privately for 8 months.  I cannot legally place any recordings or transcripts from his current tour into this blog.  I will not use the descriptions of his latest material that some concerned members of his audiences have sent to me.  But as more of his fans react to his current material in public forums, I will post some of those words here, as examples of how Maron seems to be addressing his 35 years of predatory behavior.

Maron's recent show in Vancouver, BC, on June 21st this past weekend, contains an excellent example of the ongoing grooming Maron continues using on his fans.  The following public Reddit post, by a young groomed fan of Maron's, is the exact reaction Maron is always going to get, unless/until he consciously stops the behavior he employs to get that desired response from the damaged young demographic he has targeted for sexual exploitation the past three and a half decades.  This young fan was drawn in by Maron while this fan was still in her teens, as she was undergoing traumatic events in her life.  Her following words are the very reaction Maron has been aiming for, whenever he uses the phrases he has always made sure to use in his podcast intros, and from the stage shows he has performed since 1989.   He purposely gets the attention of damaged fans, and makes it clear he wants them to approach him in real life.   He encourages his young fans to develop an actual trauma-bonding moment with him in real life, while leading them to believe he needs help "accepting" their "love."  He publicly makes clear his penchant for young girls with "daddy issues," in order to draw in his damaged young fans, each one truly feeling like they can comfort this man, believing he wants them to help him accept love.  He sets his young fans up to approach him.  He has spoken of how much he enjoys naked pictures from young fans, ever since the 2nd episode of WTF aired on 9/6/09 (behind a paywall, so I cannot quote it here.)   Sexually traumatized young survivors are highly susceptible to the words Maron has been using for years, some words which he has been weaving into his stage act longer than his current victims have been alive.

The words by this young groomed fan, which were posted in a Reddit group for Maron followers, display the exact reaction Maron is going for, when he uses certain phrases.  Here is a small section of her words, describing the very reaction Maron's grooming is meant to elicit from his most vulnerable young fans:  

"To be honest he seemed a bit frazzled and tired. The audience was very affectionate to him. Someone yelled out we love him and he said thank god but it’s hard to accept. A few times he put his hand over his eyes and paused a long time. At the end he said he’d be around to talk. That’s why I wanted to speak to him after, sort of see if he’s okay and appreciate him.  ..."

This is the response Maron knows how to evoke from young damaged survivors.  This is the dogwhistling of a grooming predator.  Maron can make these young damaged fans feel like he is bonding with them, he needs them to come up to him afterward, he needs them to comfort him.  Once they approach him, he can use them at will, and when he is done, he can abandon them, and tell everyone how these young people are all so "enamored " with him, how he doesn't even truly "want" to have sex with them (In the 2018 Guardian interview I referenced in my post on April 26, 2023, Maron says "of coures" he "wants to have sex with teen girls"), and they are "lunatics" taking advantage of him.  These young fans get blamed for all of it.  Through the whole post by this young fan on Reddit, you can see how this young trauma victim is being blamed for believing the very words Maron purposely is using.  This young fan, who has been purposely groomed by Maron's chosen words and phrasing these past few years of her young life, is shamed and called an "obsessed" "stan" by others who are ignoring the true predator in this whole dynamic.   Maron blatantly says and does the very words and actions that draw in damaged young trauma victims.  He has been playing on these vulnerable young people for decades.  He has the script memorized, a script designed to get the very reaction this young fan is displaying. 

When/if Maron ever truly decides to stop grooming damaged vulnerable youth from the stage, these kinds of responses from his young fans will begin to happen less often, and eventually cease. That will be the proof he has actually had a change of heart. Until he stops trying to draw in these girls, they are not at all at fault for responding to him.  Put the blame for these young people Maron refers to as "enamored" "lunatics" onto the person who is the one grooming them.  He knows exactly what he is doing.  He has used this script, with forethought, for three and a half decades.  This is pathogical grooming.

(Whether sexual predators can actually change on their own is viewed as highly unlikely by most experts.  Maron's behavior has escalated to at least one incident of indecent exposure, on set in Canada in 2022.  Without legal action, chances of Maron changing on his own are not realistic.  There will be more victims.)

Here is the full Reddit post and responses: 

Instant Replay

 I have received some correspondence regarding a current affair making the publicity circuit, and I find myself needing to replay a couple of my posts, in order to unmuddy the waters.  My issue, since April 26 of last year, is specific.  I will repeat this as often as necessary, for those who are confused.  

There are predators who purposely target very young survivors of CSA/trafficking, in order to sexually re-exploit these mentally and emotionally compromised young humans who display serious diagnosable symptoms that include SH and SI, and are often in recovery for substance addiction.  When such predators have a proven pattern of re-exploiting such young survivors for decades, and are being marketed to more children they can continue to groom, that is an issue that I feel strongly needs to be addressed.   The lives of young survivors need to be protected from these predators.  These predators need to be called out and stopped, in order to give young survivors a chance to escape this debilitating cycle of re-exploitation.  Very young lives are at risk, when these predators are allowed to continue grooming young survivors. 

Any relationship that does not include a predatory dynamic as described in my last paragraph, is not what I am addressing in these blog posts.  Straw men and what-about-isms will not detract me from my focus.

Here are links to reiterate where I stand:

Age

Response

Reminder