Wednesday, August 2, 2023

Hey, up for a challenge?


Pop quiz, Grooming 101

I have a little challenge, for those who would like to learn how to spot grooming.  This test isn't as hard as you might think.  I'm betting quite a few of you can ace this quiz, once you know what to watch for.

Marc Maron created a narrative, years ago, surrounding his interactions with one of his many younger fan hookups, a girl with whom he had a public relationship and eventual breakup.  Maron painted her as the aggressor.  He sexualized her mental illness from the stage. He publicly said she started everything by sending him naked pics of herself.  He made himself out to be the victim of this younger girl with BPD.  But that isn't altogether true. Their very first interaction was at a booksigning for him.  His words and behavior at that first interaction were examples of the initial groundwork he always subtly uses to draw in young girls with mental illness caused by childhood sexual trauma.  That young fan would never have sent him any pics, if he had not planted such an idea in her mind at their actual first meeting.  That is a textbook example of what grooming looks like.  Maron plants an idea in the minds of young girls suffering from serious issues, issues he knows he can later use to lay all of the blame on them.   His grooming, like forms of gaslighting and dogwhistling, is subtle enough for his plausible deniability later on when the girl is in crisis. 

Maron has been dropping hints for the last few months now, regarding a specific topic he desperately wants to have make its rounds through his current ranks of young new fans.  I am betting quite a number of observant folks out there will be capable of pinpointing this current attempt from Maron to guide his prey into doing his bidding, now that I have mentioned this specific grooming behavior has been happening since this past winter.  I will give one last hint, for anyone feeling up to the challenge of identifying Maron's current grooming attempts:  Maron actively grooms young damaged girls from every means and platform he uses to interact with the public.

Good luck, test takers.  Oh, btw, there is a prize for each one who gives the correct answer:  you will have found the ability to spot predators, wherever and whenever they are grooming potential victims.  That ability is rare, and sometimes life-saving.

Edited to add:  Yes, extra credit will be given to anyone who spots current grooming attempts I might have missed, and an automatic A+ (are lettered grades even a thing anymore?) will be awarded to anyone who takes the time to search through all of Maron's online history and spots old grooming attempts. 

An update:  I am surprised to have received a number of correct responses!  It gives me hope that maybe someday, girls like I was might be protected from predators, instead of blamed for their behavior.

This contest does not expire.  Everyone is welcome to play.  Anyone who finds it important enough to try, is already a winner in my book.  Thank you.

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